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Family Members Going Through Rectal Cancer

Family Members Going Through Rectal Cancer
By Janette Rochman

We found out my mom had colon rectal cancer about two months ago. I was scared to death.. She is my best friend, and I was devastated and confused. Right away the doctors said the best thing for her to do would be to have her colon and rectum taken out. They described how she would then have a colostomy that would leave her with a bag that she may have to use for the rest of her life. My mom looked at me quietly, and said I do not know if I can do this. I told her you have to do this. You have to live.

The day of the surgery was a day I will never forget. I had never felt so scared in my life, and all I could do was pray. They had a chapel at the hospital, and I spent a lot of time there. Hours later I saw the doctor walking towards us with a smile on his face. I then knew things were ok. He explained that things went well, and there would be a good chance that mom could be reconnected after the healing process.

After two weeks in the hospital mom stayed in a rehabilitation center getting her strength back, and learning to cope with her bag. Depressed and nervous, it was hard for her to face the reality that this may be her lifestyle for the rest of her life. There were some complications that the doctor did not tell us would happen, and at times I was frustrated and angry with him.

The weeks went by, and mom finally came home. She didnt think she could ever change the bag by herself, but she's doing it, and doing it even better than the nurses! Mom was always good at being precise and exact when accomplishing something. She has been going through radiation and chemo at the same time for five weeks. She is taking chemo in the form of a pill, so at least she doesn't have to deal with going back and forth to the hospital. The doctors say her chances are good, and that doing the radiation and chemo in this way is an added protection layer for her survival.

The reason I am writing this article is because I want people to know that I can relate to them and how they are feeling. You may feel like no one understands the pain and suffering that you are going through being a family member. My best advice to you is just because they have cancer, it doesn't mean that it's over. Don't listen to people and don't look at survival rates because I have talked to many people with cancer at Stage V who nine years later are still alive. I did a lot of research, but be careful on what you research and where the information is coming from. Research the doctor and make sure he has no hidden malpractice suits, that he is credentialed, and that he is a member of the medical board. Pamper YOURSELF a little. Take care of yourself and your health, so that you can be there for your loved one. I get massages, and they help me physically and mentally. Last but not least, love your family member and tell them that no matter what, things will be okay. Cherish them every day with love, respect, and they will soar!

Remember the soul lives forever....

Janette Rochman Pre-school teacher for low income children owner of website: http://www.treasureboutique.ecrater.com Specializing in vintage jewelry, reproduction cookie jars, collectibles, home & kitchen decor, and more. Come on in, and take a look around!

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